It’s that place where you don’t feel nervous, you don’t feel awkward, and risk is at a minimum. It’s when you are with your friends, behind your computer desk, or participating in an activity that you dominate. It’s called your comfort zone. I’m here to tell you to get out of it and spend more time in what I like to call your “irrational fear” zone. Sure, life is easier in your comfort zone, but since when was easier better.
Speaking in public used to be part of my irrational fear zone. I wasn’t all that great at it and it inevitably made me nervous. Then one day I was forced to give a presentation for a concept to millionaire investors. Talk about being intimidated. These guys meant business, and even though I only had 5-10 minutes of their time, I knew their time was valuable. I prepared for those 5 minutes for about 50 hours. As a result, I nailed it. I no longer get nervous speaking in front of anyone. Turns out I’m actually quite good at it. That is why I call it your irrational fear zone. You really have no good reason to be afraid of trying it other than it isn’t something you are used to doing.
This is the cool thing about getting out of your comfort zone – the more you challenge yourself in your irrational fear zone, the more your comfort zone will expand. As your comfort zone expands, you’ll be able to accomplish more. It will make you better at getting what you want. Talk about an edge on the rest of the world. You are now succeeding at things most people wont even attempt!
How does one get out of their comfort zone? Well, the first step is defining what isn’t in your comfort zone. For guys, one area is always girls. No matter how cool, smooth, or confident a guy appears, girls are his kryptonite. Other examples of irrational discomfort might be participating in class activities, speaking up at a business meeting, dancing at a wedding, or even something as simple as looking people in the eye when you talk. Basically, all things that involve the potential for failure or rejection. Once you’ve defined what isn’t in your comfort zone, the second step is facing those irrational discomforts. In other words, just do it. Try it, fail at it, get back up and try it again.
“Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.”
Benjamin Disraeli, former British Prime Minister
Once you try it enough, you master it and it becomes comfortable. And just like that your comfort zone expanded – Ergo, Vis-à-vis, Concordently.